THINGS I WISH SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME

I was meditating this morning and listening to my favorite person Sarah Blondin again. Somehow, some days she seems like she really gets me and says all the things I need to hear. This meditation, Discovering your Intrinsic Self was just what I needed today. It really got me thinking enough to sit down with my coffee and make my own short list.

Here is my list, what would be on your list?

Things I wish someone would have told me:

That they would not leave me

I could feel safe

It is ok to be sad

That I was important

It was ok to breathe

I could choose to love

I can be enough

It is ok to feel pain

It is ok to grieve my first mother

That I didn’t need to be a tough girl all the time

It was ok to miss her

That I would feel lost sometimes

Alcohol doesn’t make things better

It was ok to ask questions

It is ok to let someone love me

It is ok to love myself

It is ok to be touched

Who “she” was and “she” was my mother

I don’t need to look for her in everyone I meet

It’s ok to be sensitive

It’s ok to have feelings

It’s ok to want to be held and not want it at the same time

It’s ok to question

It’s ok to be quiet

Having lonely feelings is normal

Truth can be in multiple places

I might feel like I won’t fit in

It’s ok to wonder what love looks like

Not to trust that love means the same thing to everyone

It wasn’t strange that I wanted to know my origin

Looking inside myself would benefit me greatly

I could talk to someone about my feelings

It was ok to be adopted

Shame was not mine

Some of these depending on when in life I would have told these things I would not have listened, I wish someone would have tried. The phase comes to mind when we know better we do better. 

I am learning to be a better friend to myself